Life is full of changes!

I am unsure where I should start. My life has changed so so much in the past 6 months, I moved out, job, new family member, YouTube and even getting close to being an affiliate on Twitch! However, most of all I have been looking deep into myself and working on trying to overcome mental health issues and personal problems!

I mentioned that I attended uni in 2019 which of course did not turn out ok hence why I am no longer in the uk…A few things happened while I was there that I tried my best to block out of my life instead of facing them and moving on. I have spent the past few months really trying to get my head together and work on improving my mental health. A few things have happened in the past month that really did go against my plans on working on my mental health but I think in the long run I am very glad they happened.

I want to focus on the positives and I will expand a bit on the topics in future posts! Well to begin with, I have moved out and settled in my new home, its fully furnished now and starting to feel like a home rather than an empty, cold vessel. I started YouTube and hit 90 subs as well as doing 24 videos in December to kick start my channel! I then moved onto Twitch, I am so so close to affiliate, I feel like in a month or two I should be able to hit it! I have loved becoming part of the YouTube and Twitch platform, I have met so many different types of people and created lots of different content which is just so so fulfilling.

Best of all…I got a dog! We named him Obi and he is a working black Lab! He has honestly been one of the best things in my life, during a really hard time.

Obi came with a story, that’ll be in another post, along with talking about the fact that I have a puppy in general as the plan was to rescue an older dog but yet again that will be in a future post. As you can imagine, having a puppy is HARD! I knew it would be, so at least I was prepared! However, I was not prepared to have the most cuddly and clingy fluffy friend in the world! The very first night he was with us he crawled into my lap and fell asleep!

The main issue now is that I cant get things done around the home as easily as I did before he came along as all he wishes to do is CUDDLE! Which, to be honest, I cannot complain about as its the sweetest feeling in the world and I really do feel so much love from him. Since he has entered my life I feel like I now have a purpose, all the things that have happened in my life in the past two years seem so invalid because now not only do I have a best friend, I also have someone who relies on me and provides unconditional love and support. What makes this all so much better is that he doesn’t even know how much he has helped me so far.

To me, animals and nature are the most important parts of life, I love having animals and plants around me 24/7 and I am not sure what I would do without them. There’s something about living in a home that resembles a rainforest, thankfully it isn’t raining all the time indoors although I assume most of my plants would enjoy that and well… so would Obi!

Now that 2021 is in full swing and life has really been changing for the better I think I will for sure become much more active online. I really needed the break from social media and writing. Talking so openly online is hard and very exposing but prepare for more content and thank you to those who still followed me and supported me through this hard time! I hope everyone is doing well and even if you’re going through a hard time please remember that things get better and if you have no one to talk to then please pop and say hello to me 🙂

PS. having a puppy is driving me nuts!

Travelling during a pandemic

I want to discuss the situation of travelling during this hard time. Of course yet again a disclaimer:

*This is purely my thoughts, opinions and situation, please do not use this as a guide or as pure facts, this is just how I feel and how things have panned out personally for me, thank you for understanding* 

A rough description of my situation

I live at home with my partner and we both work from home and have been since March. We have both been isolating and only going out and seeing others when the guidelines had changed, we will always follow the guidelines to ensure our safety and the safety of others. The people we have been around are trusted and have been following the guidelines. 

Family

I discussed with my parents that if me and my partner came back home with positive tests we’d all isolate and me and my partner would do everything within our power to avoid contact with my parents; use separate towels, clean all surfaces, no sitting together or hugging etc. I believe it will not come to this as we have been extremely careful during our trip. 

Place of travel

I would then like to discuss the place of travel itself, we will not be travelling anywhere outside of the UK, we will only be travelling if we have isolated for a specific time before the travel date and we will ensure that our chosen locations are restricted and or follow the guidelines. 

We chose Southern England/South-West England due to the amount of activities we can do without being near anyone from the public. We are able to go on experiences that involve us being outside and or in our car which means we are less likely to cause any problems. We opted for an Air BnB as we will have our own kitchen and cleaning facilities, this means we won’t be a risk to hotel staff and we will not be at risk ourselves by being around many other people in a hotel. We also opted for a hire car to ensure no public transport is undertaken which of course protects both us and the public. 

Little things we ensured

We wore masks and ensured we used hand sanitiser with us at all times, we kept away from everyone and made sure we followed the social distancing rules. Something you can do when out and about during these times especially if you wish to travel or shop is reduce the amount of ‘touching’ you do when inside a shop or public area for example, you don’t need to pick up every book or every piece of clothing you walk past.

Reflecting on my Asperger’s and mental health

I particularly hated the airport, the main problem I had was the flight itself. They did not distance anyone on board and if I had known this would be the outcome I probably would’ve gone with another company or not flown. 

Another issue I have with traveling and just being out in public is the use of masks, my sensory problems really make wearing a mask a challenge, I feel as though I cannot breathe and I’m choking, it also brings my already very sensitive body temperature skyrocketing. I wear a combination of reusable and disposable masks depending on the situation and I will continue to wear these to ensure others around me feel more comfortable and I have to admit it does stop me from touching my face quite so much. Throughout this entire time I was very anxious and stressed, I struggled sleeping and suffered horrible doubts and thoughts surrounding illness, death and guilt. 

Shops were also very uncomfortable, some shops had rules and it was very slow and clinical but other shops acted as if rules were in place but people would not listen to the rules. This made me very uncomfortable when people pushed past or walked the wrong direction and disrupt the whole line. I dislike being constantly touched and having my personal space invaded even before this outbreak as I have always been nervous about illness, I do not have the flu vaccine as I get far too many reactions so I opt out and have to ensure I am protecting myself so the kind of behaviour I have witnessed upsets me in general as I am aware there are people who are extremely vulnerable and need to have the space to complete their tasks safely. Social distancing isn’t hard and its one of the easiest things you can do so please try your best. 

Over time I have come to realise that you cant stop your life or stop living. I’m not saying this situation should be forgotten or ignored but I believe it is here to stay, one day there may be a vaccine or herd immunity may help reduce the spread or many other things that I am not educated about may happen but for now it is here and we must learn and work together to get through it. You can travel during this time as long as you are aware of the risks and ensure you plan and prepare accordingly. No one is immune to this and you must ensure you are protecting yourself and others around you. 

Things to know when travelling

  • Traveling during this time may mean that you are unable to do things or go to certain places as they are shut so be aware that you may not be able to do exactly what you prepared for
  • The rules and guidelines are always changing so please keep an eye on the local area you are visiting to make sure you are aware and up to date with the latest guidelines
  • Different places may have different guidelines or rules, an example of this is coffee shops, some coffee shops don’t allow reusable cups or their own cups when you sit in but other coffee shops may insist that even if you wish to sit in that you must have a disposable cup
  • Masks, as of Saturday the 8th (I think) are to be worn inside of museums or certain attractions that may have not insisted masks be worn before , an example of this is the Roman baths in Bath, before Saturday you could choose to wear a mask but now it’s mandatory 
  • You may need to isolate when you get to your destination or when you return home so be prepared especially when it comes to work or family situation
  • Bring lots of hand sanitiser and ensure you have a mask with you whenever you go out, I hate the smell and texture of the sanitiser I’ve used in other shops and places I’ve visited so I for one enjoy using my own sanitiser with at least 60% alcohol
  • Ensure things haven’t been cancelled especially travel and accommodation 
  • Ensure you know the risks you’re taking and how to keep yourself and others around you safe, airlines may be crowded and you’ll be standing around near others which poses a higher risk etc
  • Some attractions social distance and you must follow a line, this means it may take much longer than expected to complete an experience
  • If you are classed as vulnerable or you have medical conditions that may make you more at risk maybe try to find a location that doesn’t involve travel like a stay-cation

Thank you for reading, please stay safe and ensure you prepare if you do also travel 🙂